Are you stuck in a rut of Emotional or Binge Eating? Do you 'start again' every Monday, only to fall again by Monday evening? Are you permanently on a diet, and caught between restricting your calories/food during the day, only to binge on all the 'wrong' foods at night?
I CAN HELP YOU.
My name is Emma Murphy, and I am an Accredited Psychotherapist specialising in Eating Disorders. For the past eight years I have worked with clients, both individually and in groups, to help them change their relationship with food. I have a background in brain injury which may not be obviously connected to Eating Disorders, but understanding the neuroscience of eating, how the brain reacts to different foods, and how the brain works with regard to auto-pilot and habit loops is a critical piece of eating disorder recovery, often missing from other Therapists’ treatment models.
I've developed several online programs to support clients, as well as my face to face work in Dublin and Cork here in Ireland. I’ve even won an Award for my online work – in 2012 Social Entrepreneurs Ireland conferred an Elevator Award on me for my work in making Eating Disorder support more accessible and affordable, online. You are free to explore your options on my website - www.eatingdisorderecovery.com, to find out more about all your online support options.
Myself and my colleague Rachel Barry, who is a Registered Nutritional Therapist, work together in Cork, and we know how difficult it is to change, and how important it is to empower our clients to change, slowly and sustainably, to deliver a lasting difference.
But most importantly, myself and Rachel now offer an online e-counselling option. So even if you are not in Ireland, you can still work with me / us.
Our 12 Week E-Counselling Program will give you a solid foundation in change, that you can continue to work on long after we finish working together.
Emma Murphy - CBT, Neuroscience and Mindfulness for Emotional Eating
I will work with you on changing your faulty thinking and helping you to understand how your brain works, so you can challenge those unhelpful ‘habit loops’ of behaviour you so often find yourself in – even when you actively don’t want to. Understanding the power of Auto-pilot and how to EFFECTIVELY challenge and STOP it is the key.
The key here is to remember that what you practice, grows stronger. Your brain has practised associating food with feelings for a long time – boredom, anxiety, sadness, anger, and probably your happy emotions too! We’ll work to un-pair the neurons that are firing together and maintaining that connection, and instead pair up other neurons and connections, which allow you to choose options other than food when you are triggered by thoughts, feelings or difficult events.
The second key point is that for as long as you’ve been doing this, you’ve been beating yourself up for having no willpower. Let me assure you, willpower has NO chance on its own of effectively challenging your brain’s STRONG preference for sticking to what it knows – the autopilot behaviours that it has worked so hard to put there.
Rachel Barry – Nutritional Rehabilitation
With Rachel, you’ll get comprehensive, sensible and customised support for YOU in terms of what you can change in your food choices to both overcome the cravings you have, AND improve your mood, your stress, your sleep and your health. Gut rehabilitation is a key part of our work too – did you know that, apart from the 100 billion neurons in your brain, you also have millions in both your heart, and your gut? That’s why an Eating Disorder, at least partially, has such a profound effect on your health and your emotions. EVERYTHING is triggered.
Before your first session with Rachel, you’ll be send a comprehensive questionnaire to fill in, and you will need to keep a food diary for at least a week, to go through with her at that first session. Many clients hate the idea of a food diary, but we always reassure you that Rachel is never looking at what you think she’s looking at! In order to rehabilitate your gut, your mental health and your overall wellbeing, as well as reduce cravings, Rachel needs to know what you are eating, and more importantly, what you are NOT eating. So there’s no judgement, just qualified, informed advice.
We schedule appointments with you to ensure you are getting both types of support in the right order. After two sessions with me, you’ll meet Rachel for the first time, thereafter you’ll move between us over the next nine weeks.
Let’s work together to break those awful cycles of bingeing and beating yourself up you find yourself repeating again and again. Let’s make your gut and belly feel better. Let’s improve your sleep, improve your mood, and most importantly, improve how you feel about YOURSELF.
9 E-counselling sessions with Emma Murphy
3 E-counselling sessions with Rachel Barry
You must also be prepared to follow Rachel’s advice on supplementation, and you may need to have an intolerance test – Rachel will give you all the information you need to be able to get that testing done with your own medical practitioner, and the best place to source your supplements depending on where you live.
It would be reasonable to expect to spend around €150 in total on supplementation and some new foods to add to your eating plan.
Please note we simply provide the guidelines and recommendations to you, and make no financial gain from these additional purchases by you. You can purchase supplements, or access testing, anywhere that is convenient to you in your area.
How much money have you spent over the years on bingeing foods? How much money have you spent on diet plans, diet programs, gym memberships, and useless pills and potions ‘guaranteed’ to ‘melt your fat away’?
How much money have you spent on doctor appointments, dental appointments and prescribed anti-depressants or anxiolytics – all to address the consequences of your emotional or binge eating?
I always tell my clients a joke:
Q: “How many therapists does it take to change a lightbulb?”
A: “Only one, but the lightbulb has to really want to change..”
An investment of 12 weeks, and your own WILLINGNESS to try something completely different, will change the rest of your life. It is that simple.
Here’s what some of my past clients have to say about working with me:
“There were many eye-openers throughout my counselling work with Emma. Not only during the sessions themselves, but also at home when applying the tools Emma introduced to me over the course of the counselling. Particularly interesting to me were tools such as the "Lapse-Relapse-Collapse" charts and the 20-Minutes-Delay method. These are tools which I still apply today. During my sessions, I particularly appreciated the way Emma managed to get me out of my "tear attacks" through her calm, understanding, supportive, yet directive way of questioning and explaining. I really appreciated the counselling sessions and would recommend Emma Murphy to anyone looking for a really good, very professional, very understanding and witty counsellor in the field of eating disorders.” (Binge Eating Disorder)
“My thought processes surrounding food and exercise were completely turned around during the time I spent with Emma. It's amazing to think back to that difficult, regimented period of time in my life and compare it to how I deal with the same everyday situations I encounter now. A mere four months after I first walked into the cosy consultation room I cycled from Croatia to Athens with my boyfriend - a spectacular experience that I wouldn't have been able to complete without the support and guidance I obtained at Counselling Care Cork. Thank you ever so much” (Overexercising and Restrictive Eating)
“Emma is able to judge whether I need her to be soft with me or tough, and that balance works very well for me. She listens and shares back what she's hearing or can give anecdotal stories to help me understand something. Emma has the right balance of empathy and tough love that suits me very well. I didn't want to "get away with stuff" like I've seen other people do in therapy. There's no point going if you're not really going to work on things. Sometimes I hated the sessions, but that's because we had to dig into tough issues. I was always grateful to have Emma there to support me as I struggled to push forward or needed time to wallow before I could move on. I was afraid at times that she'd get fed up with me because I couldn't always make myself deal with stuff. I did ask her though, and she always reassured me that that wouldn't happen. We'd work together as long as we both agreed that it was helpful.” (Binge Eating Disorder)
“I've tried many therapists who I feel wait to listen for a trigger and jump on it like a grenade. Emma really listened to me. No frilly soft speaking therapist talk. Like having a chat with a good friend and working through a few problems. I just want to thank you Emma, I saw you before my final year in college, following our sessions I had an amazing trip to Italy where I connected with my mom after spending years resenting her for being upset with my unhealthy coping mechanisms. I've since finished college and moved to Los Angeles and have an amazing job where I feel confident and happy. PLUS my mom is on her way out for a holiday soon and I can't wait to see my best friend! I have you to thank for a lot! You've taught me to be happy in my own skin and break the cycle of eating and being upset with myself and then eating again! You've thought me that a lapse is just that. A temporary thing and now I can draw a line under a bad day or a bad few weeks and get back on track! My weight and food and self-confidence was ruining my life and now I feel like I can take on anything and be happy and successful. You're amazing and I would recommend you to anybody who's going through a tough time! Thanks Emma.” (Binge Eating Disorder)
Practical Details of E-Counselling
E-Counselling works exactly the same as face to face counselling, except it is done remotely, between two PC’s or laptops. This option is suitable for anyone looking for Eating Disorders counselling, but who cannot source a counsellor near to them geographically.
There are one or two guidelines that are important for e-counselling. First it is important to state that e-counselling is more suitable for Binge Eating Disorder or Bulimia sufferers. It is not as suitable for someone with Anorexia, as usually with Anorexia there is a requirement for a multi-disciplinary approach, i.e. having a medical doctor and a Nutritional Therapist or Dietician involved. Suitability for e-counselling would therefore have to be determined with an initial assessment, and not everyone will be suitable.
For e-counselling, it is essential that you have a very stable wi-fi connection, and a camera/webcam and microphone enabled laptop or PC. It is not really appropriate to conduct e-counselling via a phone. You can see below how the screen is split equally between client and therapist. You’ll need to be running the latest version of Chrome as your browser too.
The system we use is encrypted and totally confidential so you can be secure in the knowledge that you are in a safe, private space online.
To enquire further and arrange a 20 minute, no-obligation online call with me, please email me on firstname.lastname@example.org. If you are not yet ready to take the step to face to face counselling online, then check out eatingdisorderecovery.com for your online program options.