“Many people are afraid of their feelings, especially the so-called negative emotions.  They are afraid they can’t handle their pain, that it will overwhelm them.  They are afraid that if they allow themselves to feel their loneliness it will last forever, that if they fully experience their anger they will do hurtful, destructive things.  They…

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I was chatting with a colleague at the water cooler one day, and I was sounding off about all the things I ‘should’ be doing.  More exercise (any exercise if I’m honest!), cutting back a little on client work, focusing on  other projects that demand a lot of time just now, spending more time with…

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Working with an Executive Coach recently, I was reminded by her of a particular model of counselling, called Transactional Analysis.  The assumptions of the ‘Transactional Analysis’ Framework are: People are OK. Everyone has the capacity to think. People decide their own destiny, and these decisions can be changed.   Wow.  It’s that simple.  And to…

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I was chatting to a good friend of mine at the weekend.  I have known this friend (let’s call her Anna), since high school,  and meet up with her and my other school friends regularly.  So we’ve been friends for over 25 years (wow!). Myself and another friend in this group have talked about Anna occasionally,…

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“Here’s the thing about stress though: I think we’ve all learned to use that word too loosely.  We use it as a blanket term to cover a whole range of emotions that may actually require very different techniques and tools to deal with.  We say “I’m so stressed!” when what we really mean is something…

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Client “Lisa”: My mother was an alcoholic when I was a child.  She drank for years, but it was never acknowledged.  Even now, she runs a support group for other alcoholics, but she denies that it’s related to her experience.  Every time I try to talk to my mom or dad about the past and…

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  This post was written by Emma Murphy, founder of Change Panda, Counsellor & Psychotherapist, following her return from the National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) in the USA, at the end of 2011. I have recently returned from both the NEDA Conference in L.A., and a short family vacation at the same time – combining…

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Today’s blog is about change. Whilst reading “Fat is a Family Affair” (Judi Hollis), I was struck by my experience of setting up one of my therapy groups for eating distress, and Judi’s concept of change in relation to Food Obsession (her conceptualisation of eating distress). From experience in setting up my group, I know I need to…

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It’s Friday.  Are you happy? Excited?  Looking forward to the weekend ahead – having a lie in, meeting up with friends, playing sports?  Or are you anxious about having to go out with friends?  Are you feeling sick with dread because weekends are ‘bad’ for bingeing?  Are you feeling upset that you are spending another…

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There has been a lot of discussion in the Irish media in the past year or two in relation to the lack of Government regulation in Ireland around counselling and psychotherapy. In this blog we will talk about engaging in therapy in a way that is best for the client – YOU.  Sometimes the biggest…

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